Whenever the holidays roll around, it seems like I'm frequently asked, "You don't have sweets even for special occasions?" Usually I go into my spiel, "I'm an addict. You wouldn't want an alcoholic to have a drink for Christmas would you?"
Because of the recurring question, I've been thinking about "special occasions" and how for me, that would be a dangerous determining factor. First of all, there are lots of typical "special occasions"... birthdays, anniversaries, wedding receptions, funerals. How would one ever overcome an addiction if they kept imbibing for every "special occasion?" But the real danger would be this... If I told myself I could have sweets on "special occasions" every day would have a reason to celebrate. Remembered to use a loofah on those callouses? I deserve a cookie. It's Friday? I made it through the week? Time for a treat.
That, my friends, was a mindset that led me to obesity and ill health. Trust me, I tried doing the "have dessert only for special occasions" gig. It didn't work for me. I even tried the "just have a little piece or a taste." That didn't work either. I didn't want a little piece. I wanted the whole cake. I didn't want a cookie. I wanted the whole bag.
I recognized my addiction and drew the line in the sand, which stays ... even during special occasions. And that works for me.